For months I have been unable to smile honestly. When I think about it, that I need to smile so that people don’t wonder, I can’t make my face do it. My husband asks if I’m okay. Yes. I will always say yes, unless it’s really grave. But it has not been life and death for years thank God.
But I cannot make myself smile. I do laugh. And this strikes me as funny. I can laugh but I cannot smile. My kids engender my heart opening like a flower and I smile genuinely at them. But I cannot make my insides smile. There’s no joy.
Depression is a dark and silent bastard, sometimes. Screaming at other times, an internal hell.
I have likened it to a black dog chasing me, as I try to walk tripping. Though I don’t fall, I feel shaky, uncertain.
It’s a smog cloud that surrounds, clinging with a stench.
It’s cement in your legs, arms, and heart. It’s sand in your brain.
It’s panic, which is hard to describe, in your heart. Panic is a bit like someone’s inflating your heart without your permission. Heavy and full.
Depression is sadness at the beginning of the day, when you wake, realizing you’re still alive. Not that you want death, but you cannot think of having responsibility for another day even being possible.
Eating, dressing, shopping, deciding things, all—too—much. Just too hard, this is surely quite unimaginable to someone who is happy, I know. It’s simple — the brain no longer works properly so you cannot convince it
to face it all.
Depression is the opposite of happy, it’s happiness turned upside down. The ugly step sister who is unpleasant, unattractive, persistently complaining in your ear, she’s a pain.
Raising children is almost a heartbreak—considering the lost conversations, lost moments, lost years, lost memory.
But you remember regret.
The unsmiling, aching, sad person that I am causes me silent anguish.
I know what I’ve lost, what I’ve been incapable of giving.
I wonder. When will it occur to my children that they have had half a mom?
Depression sucks. I rise and I go to auto pilot. Autopilot mom knows what to do. Tasks, appointments, phone calls, and rides. This is my life these days. I do it, wanting to lie down.
Reading is hard.
Concentrating is hard.
Grocery shopping is hard.
Cooking is hard.
House cleaning is hard.
Talking, thinking, participating is hard.
Writing is an ache, a longing to be transparent, a silent scream.
I hate depression.