I had the strangest dream last night. I woke up believing that my Dad had just died. In my dream I received a phone call saying: “Your father just passed away.” And I was so confused. I couldn’t figure out what the woman on the other end of the phone was talking about.
I kept thinking Dad just died? That means he’s been alone all these years. I felt so sad. Because I didn’t know that he was still alive, somewhere, sick and alone.
I still feel sad, though I know that it isn’t true, it is like I’m losing him all over again.
What does this dream say about me?
My dad has been gone, dead, for five and a half years. He started showing signs that something was wrong right about this time of year; my mom and dad had just paid us a visit. It wasn’t a particularly good visit. He was on his laptop the whole time. And he was acting really strange during that trip. Grumpy, even angry and even at times mean. (More than usual people!)
And then he was actually diagnosed with the brain tumors, Dec. 1st, 03.
It’s amazing how a dream, no matter how untrue it is, can linger with you. It sits with you like a stomach ache. All day today, I couldn’t shake this sad feeling that Dad has been alone for the last five years — sick and alone — and I didn’t know.