Love at first sight is easy
it’s when two people have looked
at each other
for a lifetime
that it becomes a miracle.
I’m thankful for Tom. My miracle. My best friend. His heart is good and because of this he is a gentle and loving person. It makes me think of the gospel according to Luke 6:45 : “The good person out of the good treasure of the heart produces good, ….. ; for it is out of the abundance of the heart that the mouth speaks.”
I am often blown by winds of life, but he is sure-footed. I am often scattered, there is a centeredness to my husband that is beautiful and reassuring to me. I am often frightened by my past and what it means for our future, especially for our children. He is solidly behind me encircling me with his belief in me, his hope for transformation through the grace of the New Testament Jesus and the shalom offered there. My mind is full and my heart as well, of the knowledge and experience of sharing a life with him.
June 5, 1993, we married in the chapel of Christ Presbyterian Church here in Madison, WI.
- Four children,
- two houses,
- three churches and
- many, many coffee maker’s later.
And more importantly:
- leaving a career that was important to me,
- losing my father to cancer,
- dealing with family addiction,
- my battle with major depression,
- my alcohol addiction, and other personal struggles;
As I have worked my way through a web of family history and learned so much about myself, he is still the person I fell in love with all those years ago. I certainly understand him better, know him more intimately, comprehend a little better the complex person he is and is becoming.
This feeling of gratitude that I woke with comes out of a trip to Urgent Care with him.
None of us know how many days we have left. So often we live as if we’ll never die and we face the days as if our loved ones will be with us forever. By the way, Tom is fine.
This is just a reminder to hug the someone/s that you love. Hug them and hold on tight. Consider all that they bring into your life and what it might be like without them. For all their possible aggravations (thinking of kids right now) they are the one for you — be it a friend, a child, a lover, or a life long companion.
I know that I bring my many imperfections to this partnership. And so does he. That’s what is so amazing about it.
“For death begins with life’s first breath. And life begins at touch of death” – John Oxenham