How to Love a Drunk
When you’re an alcoholic you get to tell your story and admit to your illness at the oddest moments. There is usually no time to prepare emotionally or to get the words just right. What comes is what comes. I actually enjoy these unrehearsed moments. The questions I’m asked push me to think about my sobriety in a new way.
Friday there I was outlining the basics of my recovery to a program director for a youth counselling program we’re looking at for one of the kids.It is completely unemotional task, to tell a doctor the details chronologically. Very unlike the real toll it took to write recently for Today’s Christian Woman. How to Love A Drunk, you probably know, is a story of addiction that includes healing and grace and Tom’s selfless love. This story took weeks to write. I interviewed Tom for the painful and awkward bits that I don’t remember and it was hard. Really hard! But I’m happy with the outcome. And I’ve already received feedback that the story is helping others. That makes the sacrifice as well as the awkward tender feelings worth it.
“An alcoholic is one for the rest of their lives, whether they quit drinking or kill themselves abusing, so love has to prepare for the worst but never give up hope.”
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Festival of Faith & Writing
Next week I head to the Calvin’s Festival of Faith & Writing. I’m excited and looking forward to the alone time that will inevitably come. If you’re headed there too feel free to FB message me or text. There will be time to meet IRL some of the fun people I’ve connected with online.
I’m excited to hear literary heroes speak. Anne Lamott wrote Bird by Bird and Traveling Mercies among other favorites. I hope she’s as funny IRL. James McBride’s The Color of Water:A Black Man’s Tribute to His White Mother is one of my favorite books. Other speakers I’ll seek out include Scott Cairns, poet, Okey Ndibe and Richard Foster possibly Rachel Held Evans, the popular blogger and Jeff Chu who wrote Does Jesus Really Love Me?: A Gay Christian’s Pilgrimage in Search of God in America. There is always an inspiring line up.
I’m also anticipating that it will be a good experience to be a part of this Festival Circle:
Suffering and Salve: Writing and Believing in Seasons of Illness and Pain. Illness and suffering can provoke powerful questions in the creative spirit, but they can also drain a writer’s physical, emotional, and spiritual resources. This circle will discuss how a writer’s creative process and spiritual state are affected by suffering and how other writers have engaged with, or disengaged from, their craft in times of personal suffering.
I am looking forward to meeting many friends from my writing world. So much has changed in our lives since Tom and I went together two years ago. And I’m grateful to go all, considering our circumstances. But will you pray that I wouldn’t allow my introvertedness and my current state of mind to be a liability?
And I’ll be back to writing in a few weeks unless something powerful hits. Thanks for being such faithful readers and friends.